Choose Love – and Be the Change!
By Nanice Ellis
Many wise mystics and philosophers would agree that life is
a choice between love and fear, and depending on which we choose, moment to
moment, a new world opens to us.
Now, imagine a vibrational scale with fear on one end and
love on the other. Choice by choice, every time we choose love over fear, we
help tip the scale in favor of love, and we aid in raising humanity’s
collective vibration. Making a difference in the world doesn’t require
invention, innovation, time, or even money, and, in fact, choosing love is the
one thing that makes the biggest difference.
Once love outweighs fear, the world will reach a vibrational
threshold where love dominates, and, from that point on, the momentum of love
will easily ripple throughout Earth – resulting in peace, cooperation, and
abundance for all. No matter how trite, it’s true; love is the answer and love
can save the world.
It’s easy to love someone you care about, but what happens
to love when faced with those you dislike?
Love the Unlovable
We are all actors on a stage, so, instead of seeing good
guys and bad guys, let’s remember that we are all playing parts, and let’s not
mistake the costumes for the actors or the act for reality. Always be true to
yourself, but also remember that it’s all a grand illusion and no one is ever
permanently hurt in the production.
Within every bad guy is a good guy playing an important
role, often motivating others into self-empowerment, and without bad guys, we
might stay asleep in complacency and never awaken. So, don’t be too quick to
judge. You just never know who’s behind the “dark mask” nor the purpose of
their part. Oftentimes, the “dark masked ones” don’t remember themselves, and
they need someone to see behind the facade, and cast a little light in the
shadows.
My mother once asked me, “How can you love everyone – even
those who don’t deserve it?” I answered, “But mom, those are the ones who need
love the most.”
The Price of Love
Just as it can be difficult to choose love when we don’t
love someone, it can be equally difficult to choose love when we are angry at
those we love. Oftentimes, choosing love requires forgiveness, but if we feel
wronged or misunderstood, forgiveness seems to put us at a disadvantage,
possibly making us vulnerable to additional mistreatment, whereas holding a
grudge creates an energetic shield that protects us from potential harm.
Indeed, it can be difficult to choose love when doing so makes us vulnerable.
I won’t fool you; sometimes there’s a cost to choosing love
– whether pride, righteousness, or vulnerability, you can’t choose love without
paying the price of letting go.
Put Your Weapons Down
Sword, Fist or Anger makes no difference; all forms of
defense keep you from the love you seek and the love you have to give. Don’t be fooled by judgment because it’s the
biggest weapon of all! As a product of fear and the antithesis of love, you
cannot be in love and judgment at the same time, and this means that every time
you choose judgment, you reject love. Whether physical or emotional, put your
weapons down and choose love.
My son and I use to get into the same argument all the time;
from my perspective, he was completely irrational, and I needed him to see the
error of his ways. Of course, this only fueled his fire and the fire between
us. One day, when the same argument arose, instead of giving into judgment and
righteousness, I chose love. Finally, when being right was no longer more
important than loving my precious son, judgment dissolved and I didn’t need to
change his feelings, thoughts, or beliefs. No words were exchanged, but as my
son also chose love, something shifted, and we never experienced that argument
again. Consequently, our relationship permanently transformed.
Ask yourself, “Who am I withholding love from?”
There’s a tremendous cost to withholding love because
whatever you withhold from another, you also withhold from yourself. You see,
when we feel judged, disrespected or wronged in any way, the first thing we do
is protect ourselves. However, when we close down and withdraw love from the
one who hurt us, we inadvertently withhold love from ourselves. This is because
the perception of mistreatment makes us feel unworthy and when we feel
unworthy, we instinctually withhold self-love.
Just to be clear, choosing love does not mean that you
should allow yourself to be disempowered in any way, nor does forgiveness
require that you continue or rekindle a relationship. By first choosing love
for yourself, your choices will support all involved.
What Does it Mean to Choose Love?
First ask yourself, “Where am I blocking love in my life?”
Maybe instead of shutting down, open your heart, instead of reacting, practice
forgiveness, instead of judgment, be compassionate, instead of separating,
engage connection, instead of being closed and protective, give love through a
genuine smile, handshake, hug, compliment, good deed or some random act of
kindness. Make everyone’s day brighter and when you meet people, really see
them. Look into their eyes and notice the beautiful beings beneath the masks.
When you ask about someone’s day, stop and really listen to the answer! You
just never know how a little kindness can change someone’s life!
Whenever possible, always give to those in need, but do so
without judgment. Don’t be fooled, feeling sorry for someone is as much
judgment as gossip, especially when we use another’s woes to feel better about
ourselves. So, in conjunction with giving, choose loving thoughts and choose to
see the True Being beyond circumstances.
No doubt, the love you give ripples out from those you love,
and when you love someone, your love flows to everyone they love. So ask
yourself, “How can I make those I love feel more loved?” Furthermore, since
love goes two ways, allow others to love you and feel their love; if you block
being loved, you block the flow of love.
Stop Mirroring and Start Loving
When my dog, Neo (yes, he’s named after the Matrix),
encounters other dogs, he immediately matches their energy, so if another dog
is playful, he’s playful, and if the dog barks, he barks. Most of us do the
same thing, and because we mirror each other’s energy, we get sucked into fear
and can’t hold the vibration of love long enough to experience shifts in those
less loving. Courageously be a light in the fog, and even if people judge, keep
shining because it does more for the world than fifty years of peace talks.
So, instead of seeking love and noticing where love is
lacking, give love, and keep giving love. Consider what would happen if you
made the unconditional love you feel for a pet or child, the baseline for
loving everyone? I can’t predict how long it will take, but I promise, all the
love you give will not only make a difference in others, it will return
tenfold. You might even notice that you’re actually happiest when you’re
loving.
Lip Prints
Many years ago, I was paired up with a random roommate at a
conference (except this random roommate was actually divinely selected by the
Universe – what appears random is always by divine selection). Anyway, every
morning she got up at 6 am to run, and when I got up an hour later, I would
find a sweet, good morning note, and because she kissed the note while wearing
lipstick, her warm words were accentuated by a pink lip print. By the third
day, I was jumping out of bed to read the morning’s note – and without fail,
each one was stamped with lip prints.
Your Love Makes a Difference
Love can save the world, but we must all play our parts.
What if we miss that vibrational threshold because we are one hug short? Since every act of love and kindness
contributes to the whole, let’s not overlook a single opportunity to love and
be loved. So love everyone and especially those least lovable, because they
need love the most!
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