Visitors From The Unknown
By Frank M. Wanderer, Ph.D
In our life most of us have experienced one or two
mysterious encounters, when visitors come to us from the unknown. These special
guests are in fact our own children. We love them, and we are happy that they
are here, but most of us do not accept them the way we should. They do not
receive from us the deep respect and awe that wanderers who come from the
depths of the Universe duly deserve.
Instead, we look upon our children as if they were our own
property, and we try to condition them to become adults we will be able to be
proud of. Are we really good hosts for these visitors, is this really the way
we should receive our guests?
The Nature of the Conditioned Patterns of Mind
In order to find the correct answer to the question above,
we first need to know ourselves as well as possible. Since if we ourselves are
ignorant of what or who we are, and what the purpose of our existence in this
world is, we will only be able to use the conditioned patterns of mind
inherited from our parents and teachers.
A characteristic feature of these conditioned mind
patterns–no matter how different they might be in different cultures–is that
they reproduce themselves. They therefore produce human replicas that meet the
expectations and norms of the society they are born into. They adjust to, and
keep the rules of their respective society, and they become effective members
of that society. They think, behave and feel as expected from good citizens. In
the meanwhile, they preserve the illusion of free choice, since the conditioned
mind patterns are, to a certain extent, flexible.
Then we identify with the conditioned mind patterns and
begin to believe that we know the answer to the question regarding our
identity, our goals in life and on the proper behaviour with our visitors. In
accordance with the functions of our conditioned mind patterns we make replica
human beings out of our visitors, depriving them of the possibility of
developing in a way that is best for their personalities. We do all that in
good faith, since we would like to save them from suffering, we intend to
ensure that they are going to have a better life in a better world. As
replicas, they are going to get our own suffering and our own ignorance of
reality. That is how, in turn, they will receive their own visitors and convert
them into human replicas.
Building Up the Personality
If are hospitable and attentive hosts of our visitors coming
to us from the unknown, we must first recognize that they, just like we
ourselves before them, come to this world as wanderers. The objective of their
journey is to enable the Universe to manifest itself and to awaken into its own
existence, filtering through their personalities as as human beings. We must
assist them in the process as more experienced wanderers who are a little bit
ahead of them in the journey.
When the guests arrive at our house, they are entirely
inexperienced, they do not know anything about the work of this world, and they
are unable to express themselves. In other words, they do not have the means–a
personality–that would help them in those processes. They do have, however, a
very effective strategy, that is, imitation, with the help of which they are
able to build up a personality in a few years. For the imitation, they will
choose us as a model, the people living in their environment. If we live
according to our conditioned mind patterns, they will imitate those patterns.
The patterns will be deeply imprinted, and will serve as the foundation for
their personalities.
Visitors from the Unknown
Once our visitors have learned to speak, and begin to
understand more and more of the world around them, we will further improve that
basic conditioning in them by explaining to them how the world functions and
what they need to watch in connection with it. We received those explanations
readily from our parents and teachers, and we have no specific direct
experience about these. Our messages further deepen the conditioning of our
guests, who will in turn identify with the conditioned mind patterns.
That is how the personality of our visitors develop, though
the original goal of that personality was to represent their individuality in
the world. This individuality is, however, hidden deeply under the thick layers
of conditioned mind patterns, beliefs, ideas and identification. Thus it is no
wonder that they live as replicas, and completely forget about their original
mission in this world.
Individuality Blossoming
All this means that we are only able to become good hosts
for our visitors if we ourself are not replicas but individuals. We must
therefore walk the line we want our guests to walk, too.
Ten ideas to help our visitors to avoid becoming replicas
and to allow their individuality to bloom:
Do not consider
them as our property; instead, look upon them as beloved guests, who only need
our assistance and not our control.
Give them a
sufficient amount of freedom so that they can earn experience from the world
themselves.
Allow them to
experience more and more things by and for themselves.
Do not teach them
things we do not have direct personal experience and we received readily from
our teachers.
Teach them not to
take anything for granted just because it was proclaimed by a person regarded
as authority by the society around them.
Allow them to be
doubtful of anything and everything until they gather personal experience about
it
Help them to
remain free so that they will be open to any new experience available to them.
Share with them
our own experience.
Create for them an
environment in which they have a lot of opportunities to laugh and live a
joyful, cheerful life and enjoy life as much as possible.
Offer them our own
example, and show them how is it possible to live a conscious and alert life.
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